thoughts

5 simple rules to be happy
Free your heart from hatred
Free your minds from worries
Live simply
Give more
Expect less

No one can go back and make a brand new start
Anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending

God didn’t promise days without pain
Laughter without sorrow
Sun without rain
But he did promise
strength for the day
comfort for the tears
and light for the way

Disappointments are like road humps
They slow you down a bit
But you enjoy the smooth road afterwards
Don’t stay on the humps too long
Move on

When you feel down because you didn’t get what you want
Just sit tight and be happy
Because God is thinking of something better to give you

When something happens to you
good or bad
consider what it means
There’s a purpose to life’s event
To teach you how to laugh more
Or not to cry too hard

You can’t make someone love you
All you can do is be someone who can be loved
The rest is up to the person to realize your worth

The measure of love is when you love without measure

In life there are very rare chances that you’ll meet the person you love
And loves you in return
So once you have it don’t ever let go
The chance might never come your way again

It’s better to lose your pride to the one you love
Than to lose the one you love because of pride

We spend too much time
Looking for the right person to love
Or finding fault with those we already love
When instead we should be perfecting the love we give

When you truly care for someone
You don’t look for faults
You don’t look for answers
You don’t look for mistakes
Instead, you fight the mistakes
You accept the faults
And you overlook the excuses

Translation : A Marriage / A Union

Aiyuha Zawjee (husband), ponder this

A marriage or a union
Reveals a veiled secret
For the wife you married
Is not as noble as Khadijah
Nor is she as muttaqeen as Aisyah
Nor is she as persevering as Fatimah

In fact
Your wife is only a woman who at the end of her lifetime
Has ambition to be solehah

A marriage or a union
Teaches us our mutual obligations
A wife is the mother earth, you are the protecting sky
A wife is the planted fields, you are the fence
If the wife is deemed as the tamed animals, you are the shepherd
A wife is the student, you are the mursyidun
A wife is like a child, you are her source of pampering
In the moment, a wife is the honey, you drink to your heart's desire
In the moment, a wife is the poison, you are her antidote

If a wife is a curved bone
Be extra gently when straightening her

A marriage or a union
It brings us a humbling realisation
The need for iman and taqwa
To teeter the bridge of patience and Allah's acceptance

For having a wife who is not as perfect
Will inevitably jolt you from your ponderings
You are not Rasullullah saw
Nor are you Sayyidina Ali Karamallahhuwajhah
You are only a man who at the end of his lifetime
is striving to be a solihin
Amin..

Aiyuha Zawjatee (wife), ponder this

A marriage or a union
Reveals a veiled secret
That the husband who marries you
Is not as noble as Muhammad saw
Nor is he as muttaqin as Ibrahim
Nor is he as persevering as Ayyub
Nor is he as strong as Musa
Nor as dashing as Yusuf

In fact,
Your husband is only a man who at the end of his lifetime
Has ambition to leave behind
Descendents of soliheen
A marriage or a union
Teaches us shared responsibilities
A husband as the covering, you are the content
A husband as the ship captain, you are the navigator
A husband is like a cheeky actor,
you are his captivated audience
In the moment, your husband is a king
You relish the grapes of his paradise
In the moment, your husband becomes the venom, you are the antidote
If a husband turns snappish and hurtful,
have patience to remind him

A marriage or a union
It brings us a humbling realisation
The need for iman and taqwa
To teeter the bridge of patience and Allah's acceptance
Of Allah swt
For having a husband not as courageous
Will Inevitably jolt you from your ponderings
You are not Khadijah
who is perfect in caring for him
Nor are you Hajar who is so devoted despite her suffering
You are after all, only a woman at the end of her lifetime
Striving to be a solihah
Amin..

So, aiyuha Zawjee and Zawjatee
Do not expect too high
When you are obviously not as able

Zawjee and Zawjatee remember:
“Why long for a wife as great as Khadijah
when you yourself are not as noble as Rasullullah s.a.w
No need for a wife as beautiful as Balqis
when you yourself are not as great as Sulaiman
Why hope for a husband as dashing as Yusuf
When your love is not as pure as Zulaikha's
No need to look for a husband as capable as Ibrahim
When you are not as able as Hajar and Sarah...”

Pernikahan atau perkahwinan

A friend forwarded this piece which i find so very beautiful and deep. Not that they are something new or that i am oblivious of them, but i appreciate the piece.


Wahai SUAMI.... renungkanlah

Pernikahan atau perkahwinan
menyingkap tabir rahsia
Isteri yang kamu nikahi
tidaklah semulia Khadijah
Tidaklah setaqwa Aisyah
Tidaklah setabah Fatimah

Justeru,
Isterimu hanyalah wanita akhir zaman
yang punya cita-cita menjadi solehah..

Pernikahan atau perkahwinan
mengajar kita kewajiban bersama
Isteri menjadi tanah, kamu langit penaungnya
Isteri ladang tanaman, kamu pemagarnya
Isteri kiasan ternakan, kamu gembalanya
Isteri adalah murid, kamu mursyidnya
Isteri bagaikan anak kecil, kamu tempat bermanjanya
Saat is teri menjadi madu, kamu teguklah sepuasnya
Setika isteri menjadi racun, kamulah penawar bisanya

Seandai isteri tulang yang bengkok,
berhatilah meluruskannya...

Pernikahan atau perkahwinan
menginsafkan kita,
perlunya iman dan taqwa
Untuk belajar meniti sabar dan redho
ALLAH s.w.t kerana
Memiliki isteri yang tak sehebat mana
Justeru Kamu akan tersentak dari alpa
Kamu bukanlah Rasulullah s.a.w
Pun bukanlah Sayyidina Ali Karamallahhuwajhah
Cuma Suami akhir zaman
yang berusaha menjadi SOLEH....
Amin....

Wahai ISTERI pula...renungkanlah

Pernikahan atau perkahwinan
membuka tabir rahsia
Suami yang menikahi kamu
tidaklah semulia Muhammad s.a.w.
Tidaklah setaqwa Ibrahim
Tidak setabah Ayyub
Tidak segagah Musa
Apalagi setampan Yusuf

Justeru
Suamimu hanyalah lelaki akhir zaman
yang punya cita-cita membangun
keturunan yang soleh...
Pernikahan atau perkahwinan
mengajar kita kewajiban bersama
Suami menjadi pelindung, kamu penghuninya
Suami nakhoda kapal, kamu pengemudinya
Suami bagaikan pelakon yang nakal,
kamu adalah penonton kenakalannya
Saat suami menjadi raja
kamu nikmati anggur singgahsananya
Seketika suami menjadi bisa, kamulah penawar ubatnya
Seandainya suami bengis lagi lancang,
sabarlah memperingatkannya...

Pernikahan ataupun perkahwinan
mengajarkan kita
perlunya iman dan taqwa
Untuk belajar meniti sabar dan redho
ALLAH s.w.t. kerana
Memilik suami yang tak segagah mana..
Justeru Kamu akan tersentak dari alpa
Kamu bukanlah Khadijah
yang begitu sempurna di dalam menjaga
Bukanlah Hajar yang begitu setia dalam sengsara

Cuma wanita akhir zaman
yang berusaha menjadi SOLEHAH
Amin...


Justeru itu wahai SUAMI dan ISTERI
Jangan menuntut terlalu tinggi
Seandainya diri sendiri jelas tidak berupaya

SUAMI dan ISTERI ingatlah:
"Mengapa mendambakan isteri sehebat Khadijah
Andai diri tidak semulia Rasulullah s.a.w.
Tidak perlu isteri secantik Balqis
Andai diri tidak sehebat Sulaiman
Mengapa mengharapkan suami setampan Yusuf
Seandai kasih tak setulus Zulaikha
Tidak perlu mencari suami seteguh Ibrahim
Andai diri tidak sekuat Hajar dan Sarah...."

l o v e

disposable

it's been a while since i last went for my slimming sanctuary session. my beautician phoebe greeted me with 5-6 other ladies at the reception, everyone grinning. phoebe approached and held my arms. said "kak n - you dah lain... sangat lain, sangat kurus...!". Kembang gue tak terbicara. such line are becoming quite familiar these days (amboi! belagaknya - hopefully i wont be clouded and lupa akan zaman selambak dulu). Phoebe took me to the room. Sepersalinan menanti for me to change. Only that, this time the disposeable undies is in the form of a disposable g-string! akak gelak besar hehehehehe.... what you see is not what you get... i've got a long way to go!

a trip 'home'

was in S@M yesterday, for a business visit. Did not expect what's awaiting for me tho. I met the lot i used to work with for almost - 5 years. The last time i was there was the day i moved out - end July 2007. Approaching the office, i realized the growing pang of 'sadness', yet meeting everyone made me feel like i was returning 'home'.

lots of huggings and kisses with those on the floor. i dropped in the bosses rooms, said hello and update news on the happening around my 'new' job and the 'new' me.
it was nice to be received welcomingly.

the girls in particular came hugging and astonished with my new look, the slimmer me, alhamdulillah. it makes me feel so good and i am all too willing to share my regime, encouraging them that if i could do it - so could they. i must thank my personal trainer for the push (today taking her for lunch @ ayam penyek :)).

so much to catch up, so little time.. yet in the shortest of time sempat jugak the 'makciks' asked me some personal questions, the kind i have been living without for the last year or so.

when i was driving back to my office in kd, i was overwhelmed with today's experience (minus the intruding questions from the so-call makciks) - wanting to reach out for more from those lot. i dialed a few numbers to thank them and hope to see them again soon.

then i found myself calling KL who is the wife to one of the bigshot of SCP.
KL after registering that it was me (i'm with my current mobile number having discarded the one she kept) 'you calling nak jemput kenduri kawin ka?' i struggled to excuse my case and the fact that it was a small wedding at a masjid. She shot -'why? you think i dont enter masjid?'.. kena lagi!

then i shared with her my experience today - that i am identifying the sadness returning to SCP - because, i was returning to the place i had to leave kerana merajuk (duhh!). i was taken for granted for rounds of episodes and empty promises. some gave hopes and therefore i was hanging on to those. While i continued giving it all on my part, these people went home at the end of the day, good nite sleep tight and life goes on. The recognition wasn't balance. Merajuk? (oh dear!) but in the corporate world, and in life for that matter, one could merajuk big time and when you're not dealing with the right kind of people - it becomes - who cares - sapa nak pujuk? Noone is indispensable.



In my SCP case, KL's hubby requested for me to stay on - timely for him to chart his plans, but i was at the edge of falling and breaking - and with the opportunity i found - i left anyway - merajuk matched and terpujuk with the better opportunity. For over a year now, i worked at more than double the salary, at half the workload. That's pretty big bonus, alhamdulillah. He works mysteriously - putting one to a test and it's kunfayakun.

Continuing with my sharing with KL, telling her why i was not in touch for so long. I chose to keep myself away from those who knew too much - most people do that in recuperating. Not that it matters what others think and say, and neither am i putting them at fault. but i was at such a stage that i could be better off without the additional problem others could be creating for me. thank you.

At the end of the day - and for the sekian kalinya, one only needs Allah. People - friends and families - are some form of bonuses. YOU are in incharge of your own destiny / life, answerable only to Him... YOU make the choice - nak make a situation good or bad, recognize the hikmah disebalik sesuatu kejadian. it's never about merajuk sapa nak pujuk really ;) While whining and ranting every now and then - well i'm born pompuan!

Guide me Ya Allah.